Where Hyper-Independence Begins
Some patterns don’t start where we think they do.
For most of my life, I’ve prided myself on being independent.
The one who figures it out. The one who doesn’t need help. The one who says “I’ve got it”—even when I don’t.
I always thought that was just who I was.
But recently, something shifted.
I was sitting with my parents, listening to stories I’d heard pieces of before—but this time, something landed differently. A single moment reframed everything I thought I understood about my childhood, my relationships, and the way I’ve moved through the world.
It traced all the way back to when I was two years old.
Suddenly, things that never made sense… did.
The constant pull for attention.
The feeling of being on my own.
The quiet belief that if I didn’t handle things myself, no one would.
What I realized is this:
Sometimes the way we survive becomes the way we live—long after we need it.
And what looks like strength… is actually something much older.
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In the full piece, I share the moment that changed how I see my childhood, my relationship with my mom, and the deeper roots of hyper-independence—and what it’s taken to begin rewriting that pattern.
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